Soul mate?

What are your thoughts on finding your one soul mate? Do you believe in that?

ASKED BY ANONYMOUS

I’ve gotten more and more pessimistic about soul mates, specifically because I hit my stride in my mid 20s I’m being more and more disappointed by people. Mind you, not just men who I could be romantic with, people.

So, I have to take a deep breath and realize I’m young. That going through some rough patches happen. That I’m barely formed as an individual, the paint is still drying, things get messy.

I also look at my mentors, my friend Janna is 15 years older than me and just in the last 3 years met her fiancé and had her son. My parent’s met when my dad was in his 30′s, and my mom was a single mother in her 20s with my half brother. Some of my extended family has married and now are divorced. 

Nothing happens like a movie. I’m not going to go bump into my soulmate while picking up organic goodies at a farmer’s market. I’m not going to be wearing a pretty outfit with perfect hair. We’re not going to look like a RRL ad, or a spread out of The Selby. 

But deep down, I believe that there’s a someone out there that will make me happy, and I make him happy. Maybe for a year, maybe for 4, maybe for 40. Maybe we’ll have kids maybe we won’t. Maybe we’ll live in the country, maybe the city. Maybe we’ll break up and reconnect in 10 years. Who knows. 

I definitely don’t know. I plan for 3 month in advance. Nothing more, because I barely know where I’ll have to be in an hour, much less a year. 

For now I’m looking for someone who likes what I like and wants to challenge me to be more adventurous. Someone who grabs my hand. Someone who’s ready for that next step in life, because I sure as hell am.